When The Angels
Cried
Waiting Patiently
In recent years with our children moving on to make new lives for themselves, I'm experiencing a sense of loss, but I've also accepted a challenge for enriching change in my life. Last fall our oldest son Ralph afforded me the opportunity to audit an Advanced Writing course at the University College of Cape Breton. He could hardly have known what a life-giving challenge he presented to me through his encouragement and support. For me the writing course, taught by a very capable professor, is a resurrection story born out of the positive influence of many people. It reminds me of Ralph's teenage years when he sought assurance and direction to open a computer business at the age of seventeen, a business that eventually led to our physical separation, when he later moved to Ottawa to establish Doncaster Consulting Inc.
New life for him in the computer field brings new life for me too, for although our physical separation presents a challenge to me as his mother, it is a challenge familiar to families everywhere, whether young adults are leaving Cape Breton to go to Ottawa or Alberta, or leaving the turmoil of Yugoslavia to come to Cape Breton. Change and life beyond the children is a reality for most parents, as teenagers are transformed into adults who seek to discover the world for themselves. While Ralph has moved on, he continually challenges himself to advance in the field of computer technology and other areas of life. Correspondingly, he keeps an open line for us at home, encouraging us to grow increasingly computer literate. Email and web pages are a regular source of interconnectedness for our family today, as they are for many others too. Email allowed me to remain linked to the Advance Writing course at UCCB when I was sidelined with unexpected surgery this winter; it was a link that offered continued support and encouragement.
However important encouragement is for us as human beings, it can
only take us so far. Whatever challenges we face, we ourselves have to
seek
the best ways to face those challenges, so that we can move forward and
take
the initiative to improve our lives, and others. For me personally, my
faith in
God has always given me the stability I've sought when I've been most
greatly
challenged. Accordingly, I believe that using our God given abilities,
Cape Bretoners who continue to survive the incredible ups and
downs of the Steel Plant, the coal mines, the fishing industry, and the
construction industry, will survive and continue to rise up as leaders in
the
field of computer technology. This leadership must be complemented with
other areas of educational leadership and growth as we work towards
building bridges between our industrial past and our developmental future,
allowing that change comes with growth and prosperity. We shall rise from
the ashes of uncertainty, especially when we draw new life and hope from
the motivational message of Easter. We Cape Bretoners shall live as a
resurrection story!
(c) Viola Doncaster, East Bay, Cape Breton, April 1997.